IMAGO Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy was developed by Harville Hendrix PhD, who is the
author of the bestselling book entitled "Getting the Love you Want". Dr Hendrix
founded the Imago Relationship Therapy Institute in order to disseminate his successful
program to professionals. The Institute now has an international membership of over 1000
Imago therapy has positively affected thousands of couples around the world. More than one thousand therapists in nearly 40 countries are "changing the world one relationship at a time" by teaching the Imago Dialogical processes. This approach to communication comes out of new understandings about the relational paradigm, and is helpful for new couples, those together for many years, people in business relationships, and more. Imago Relationship Therapy is an effective, loving and compassionate approach to bridging the distance between you and your partner. Learning and teaching the "Imago Dialogue" allows couples to move from blame and reactivity, to understanding and empathy, so they can create a deeper and loving connection with each other.
You can experience the benefits of Imago Therapy in TWO ways: Attend a workshop or receive expert coaching in couples therapy sessions – or both! Either way, you will receive the tools, knowledge and guidance to help transform even the most difficult aspects of your relationship into opportunities for growth, healing and joy. Each of these options can augment the other, and many couples find attending both the workshop and therapy complementary and extremely beneficial. The workshop is a good option if you want to boost your Imago Therapy process or if you will find it difficult to attend regular sessions. The workshop is also a more economical option.
"Getting The Love You Want" is a weekend-long workshop designed by Dr Harville Hendrix where couples can revive and restore their love, create a vision for moving forward, and learn effective communication skills. This workshop is ideal for couples who are looking to put the spark back into their relationship and build a positive future together.
The group setting is only for teaching theory and demonstrating tools. Privacy and confidentiality is respected and you will not be expected to share any personal issues with the group. You will have time to work alone and with your partner.
"Getting The Love You Want" was designed for couples in all relationship phases, including couples who are dating, married, or on the verge of divorcing. Couples considering divorce or trying to overcome an affair can greatly benefit from this workshop, as they receive the skills and tools needed to restore their love and commitment with one another. Couples looking to refresh their love and find a sense of renewed romance also benefit from the workshop and/or therapy.
IMAGO Relationship Therapy Or The Workshop Is For You If:
- You want to enrich an existing good relationship
- You are starting a new relationship and want it to last
- You are tired of being in an unsatisfactory relationship and want to learn to acquire the love you want
- Your relationship is on the rocks and you need to make a decision about it
- You are in a difficult relationship and want to resolve intense conflict
Even if life at home is relatively peaceful, couples state that they have nothing in common anymore. The result is often that couples lead a disappointed or resentful co-existence, each with their own interests. The product then becomes a marriage of convenience or an arrangement they endure, "for the sake of the children".
Shattered dreams, whatever form they take, are painful, but there is hope because this process is part of the healthy development of every relationship. The romantic phase naturally ends and is followed by conflict and a power struggle. The key to healing lies in this awareness.
What we have to understand is that conflict is supposed to happen. Conflict has to be understood as a given, a sign that the psyche is trying to survive; trying to restore what went wrong, to get its needs met and become whole. It is only without this knowledge that conflict is destructive.
Society has institutionalised permission for divorce. It is not always necessary to leave an unhappy marriage to grow and to heal. Divorce often gets rid of the partner, but we keep the problem and carry it into the next relationship.
What you have experienced during the romantic phase of your relationship is an indication of the potential of what your relationship can be like. What is really happening when we fall in - and out - of love? What is really going on when couples fight?
To gain insight into the hidden agenda of a relationship, we have to look at the complex process of human growth and development. We all begin life in a state of relaxed and joyful bliss, with a feeling of connectedness. To remain attached, our caretakers have to be attuned to our wants and needs, always ready and able to provide warmth and safety. Then our feelings of aliveness and well-being are sustained and we remain whole.
Even in the best of circumstances, our parents are not able to maintain perfect standards, to be available every minute, to always understand exactly what is needed and to meet every demand. At times they may be tired, frustrated or struggling with problems of their own. We therefore gradually adapt to get our needs met and to survive the emotional wounds we acquire in the process. We withdraw, have temper tantrums or comply by pleasing others all the time. We threaten, manipulate, compromise or criticize. We take these survival strategies into our adult relationships to try and get our needs met.
The key to healing is in understanding our own and our partner's wounding. We often take part in re-wounding our partner because we unknowingly trigger old feelings and behaviour. Powerful healing is possible through connection. Marriage or a committed relationship, properly understood, is the therapy we need to reclaim our original wholeness.
If your relationship has not turned out the way you hoped, the good news is that a lasting, fulfilling love is completely within your reach.
In IMAGO Relationship Therapy you can learn:
- How to create a safe space in which your relationship can blossom and in which your children can grow up
- How to communicate with each other in an honest, non-defensive way
- To understand what triggers your partner's behaviour
- Why you have chosen each other
- How to heal old relationship and childhood wounds
- How to satisfy each other's important needs, while fostering each partner's individual growth
- How to reduce and eliminate frustrations
- How to step out of the power struggle and move in the direction of greater consciousness about your partner and your own needs and hurts
- How to rekindle romance and passion
- How to create a vision together
Article: EEG changes coincident with a 90-day CBT program for couples in relationship distress
- Donald R. Du Rousseau &Theresa A Beeton
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Due to the COVID-19 pandemic workshops has been put on hold. Trix does offer individual couple sessions at the practice using the same IMAGO therapy approach.